I do not grieve.
Yesterday my eldest sister died. I do not grieve.
She has been dead to me since soon after my mother's death in 2020.
I don't believe that in all circumstances forgiveness is necessary. In this world many would have us believe forgiveness frees us. I disagree. I'm a grudge holder. I believe that when someone shows you who they are, you should believe them.
Inability to forgive family trauma isn't a flaw in your character. It is a strength that protects you.
I saw nothing but selfishness, greed and egocentricity in her behaviors. I grieve not her loss. I do have empathy for her children who are grieving her loss but that's as far as my heart can extend.